I thought I responded to this but apparently I didn't??? I've been really tired these past few days so I suppose I forgot. I had a lot of accounts marked with some form of privacy, I didn't allow random follows on some platforms and never advertised things or connected stuff to my discord for this reason. I knew how incredibly malicious some people could be. I sadly just made the mistake to join a server with a username that I had on some other accounts and well, that's all it took. They searched the name (I never even answered the people who asked who I was when I joined and asked to dm my Minecraft info for the whitelist because I didn't want them knowing). Didn't make a difference. My steam also has nothing on it.
I sometimes sadly regret even reinstalling gmod when I first got this laptop. I spent a lot of time just trying to have fun with the mechanics because I've joined other servers and something about the feel or looks of them just... didn't feel right if that makes any sense? TitsRP was the first place that didn't look like shit, har a palatable UI, plenty of jobs and random other shit to do and I really do like the server itself. It's really just the community and how people in power positions handle the shit the community does that needs to change.