Xyleena

Again in the post I stated that implying something is way worse than F slur , most people see F slur everywhere and are quite more tolerant, stuff that mean more or less the same thing but in different ways can be detrimental. Not allowing a slur is appreciated, but just hating on someone for their innate characteristics and actively trying to ruin their mood is even worse? no? If you think otherwise I don't know why slurs are a problem then, they are both intending to hurt someone. Again, the comment was just so good seeing thicker skin infuriates me, makes me wanna really blast, Where is the button to do it so I can? People might have some past trauma and may not be able to do that, I Have provided a lot of sources for you to read. You would be best psycholog by saying "just be happy lmao" to a someone with depression.

I appreciate the response, and I have the same view with the last part actually, but like I Have been insulted through OOC and an admin said just mute and move on, I kinda lost it there. I didn't want to state this, but I lost 4 of my trans friends to bullying (self harm), that's why I am excessively sensetrive about this topic, a few comments can ruin day or even make people feel like shit, to be honest when I would say I got bullied through OOC repeatedly by being called a man with OBVIOUS TRIVIAL malicious intent the guy has history of this behaviour , and AN ADMIN DOING ABSOLUTELY NOTHING BUT SAYING MUTE made mad, mostly the 2nd part I lost lack of interest for doing anything I love for an entire day, I am fine now but this moderation kinda makes me want to stay away, I Shouldn't have to report this, it is clearly seen, an action at least player should be warned by the admin instead of saying mute to me. We may not have the same point of view, but I stayed there for the content regardless but when I say I don't actually feel safe there right now I mean it, it is currently best in terms of content and I admire the way you handle the server rubik but it is best if I take a step out and relieve tbh at least for now or until I can feel secure, keep it up though ~

Being nice to humans in garry's mod *wheezing face* am I right? Cannot hold passive agression after reading all this, my sincerest apologies. And I mean it. It is just frustrating that everyone excpects the bullied to grow "thicker skin" and not the other way around. Yes people should try to be as strong as they can be, but their strongest might be weak due to mental stuff. Said billion times, just spend time to read maybe? Why would one want other to feel bad intentionally I still cannot comprehend that even though there are various reasons stated...

Nah, I don't think misgendering is actually an issue by itself, I have seen admins see people call me "guy" on OOC "male" etc INTENTIONALLY to attempt to hurt me, but the people didn't even read the post at all immediately start saying take harrasment and move on proving the point there. And yes, I am mostly trying to protect the childeren, they can actually self-harm due to bullying if it is severe, even if nothing changes I can tell myself I tried. And thanks for your response, probably I'll quit though, even though people called me like piece of shit trans? something like that but no action taken because it is not the "f slur" or intentionally said man, if you aren't man you take no offense right ? man etc , there is for sure malicious intent as their profile had several -rep for being a transphobe.

Yeah they should beat us at school so we don't cry to psychological violence and put it into ourselves and only cry to physical ones /s

It's fine, at least I'll sleep well knowing that I tried.

Heya! I am Leena but most people call me "Please use the mute function in game", jokes aside I wanted to review about the hate speech rules mostly, I have seen that certain slurs have been banned and being punished accordingly, but very similliar words are not being punished at all, thus I wanted to write a detailed review about why that shouldn't actually be the case. SO PLEASE IF YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF MODERATING RULES, I REALLY DEMAND YOU TO READ THIS, I EVEN BEG YOU, PLEASE SPEND A FEW MINUTES OF YOUR PRECIOUS TIME, I APPRECIATE THAT. Some sources I used had several writers and or anonymous so I have not used exactly APA format, and or didn't make double citations, I may have used name of website/person that reviewed the article and approved. Only have double cited on part 5 as that is what website did (I took it exactly without paraphrasing like rest of the others, can point where is which from) Slurs by definition is a word that is targeted against one person's race,ethnicity, religion ,sexuality etc. with malicious intent to harm. They are banned in server due to the nature of the words intending to seek (or attempt) to ruin the experiecne for others, which is a very nice thing to moderate I appreciate that. I would like to state that I developed some resistance against them, but I am completely not immune, but what triggers me is no action being taken against some sentences which roughly mean the same thing or even worse. Targeted cyberbullying happens and goes unmoderated by saying just cope,mute and move on however this approach is wrong for various reasons. UNICEF (2023) defines cyber bullying as bullying with the use of digital technologies, and it may affect people mentally,emotionally and even physically! It may make one feel that they are never safe and being attacked from everywhere. These effects may be short or long-term. And may even increase tendancy to self harm or worse in extreme cases. (Mentally – cyber bullying might make you feel sad, ashamed, foolish and even afraid or mad. Emotionally – lack of interest in things you like ,embarassed Physically - effects like pain in head,stomach and even lack of sleep causing weakness ) [1] Additonally, stopbullying.gov (2023) states that cyber bullying has special things to worry about that cyberbullying may be persistent, even permanent and hard to notice by one's parents. Being persistent means the bullying may never stop so the person being bullied might barely feel comfortable at any time since digital devices allows people to communicate instantly at any given time. Being permanent suggest the information is available for anyone to see (if something is made to harm one's reputation) , it may affect most forms of applications even.[2] However,Dr. Pearl Ben-Joseph suggests that blocking the bully, resisting to urge to answer them helps with this type of behaviour. But also encourages to tell to someone and report it, it may or may not make bullying more severe regardless of if you have stood up for yourself. However people may be afraid to speak up because they might not have figured out they are being bullied, they might choose to not act at all. It is even worthwhile to report the bully as even police may find them and there are laws* to prevent it. [3] According to American Psychology Association only when we all attempt to create an atmosphere where malicious behaviour we will see a decrease in bullying.[4] Even though APA have concluded that for schools, many psychologists also agree the same for cyber bullying. I don't always have hard time dealing with bulllying, but some others may not be able to resist their urges to respond to their bullies, might fail to ignore them. This does not make them weak, mental issues are not something that can be said cope and move on like in OOC chat, otherwise people would be best psycholog by saying why are you in depression, be happy. We have seen examples of harrassment in game in private chat and OOC a lot of times and no action have been taken against. United Nations (2023) define hate speech may threated social peace as it is harsh language targeting a specific individual or a group targeted on their innate characteristics. "We must confront bigotry by working to tackle the hate that spreads like wildfire across the internet.” -ANTÓNIO GUTERRES (2023) [5] In conclusion I would kindly want you to review your rules about at least hate speech as it may be the best thing we can do regarding cyber bullying without taking freedom of opion and expresion. It may be hard to distinguish what is hard to differ what should be considered hate speech what is freedom of speech as United Nations suggests[5**], but some actions are clearly have been done with malicious intent and DO harm the players clearly. Intentionally misgendering to harm (Accidental is very okay and I can assure you everyone I have seen has been tolerant about it), targeting one's race with intent to harm them , telling someone to harm theirselves should not be tolerated by under any circumstance from my perspective. Thanks for your precious time and I wish you all an amazing day ~ Sources: [1]https://www.unicef.org/end-violence/how-to-stop-cyberbullying#2 [2][https://www.stopbullying.gov/cyberbullying/what-is-it [3] *https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/laws [4] https://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/2014/09/prevent-bullying [5] https://www.un.org/en/hate-speech/understanding-hate-speech/what-is-hate-speech (kinda important to check the quote) [5**] "However, to date there is no universal definition of hate speech under international human rights law. The concept is still under discussion, especially in relation to freedom of opinion and expression, non-discrimination and equality" (direct copy paste from [5]) , that's probably worth reading)